Bye Mel

Today's the last day I'm seeing one of my closer friends: Meliana.

Maybe I shall spend a little time talking about this absolutely beautiful lady. =)

If there was a phrase to describe her: Proverbs 31 Lady!

And I don't think I'm stretching it.



For a start, in her time here in Singapore, she takes care of an apartment herself, so she does the cleaning of the house, sweeping the floor la, ironing the clothes, cooking meals, buy groceries and basically everything you need to mantain a house in tip top condition.

And she's so pretty!..

That's a big wow already. Okay, let's see...

She's going back home to manage a part of her dad's business, alone! Power! Haha. I guess I won't share too much in case she doesn't want people to know about this part.

In my words, a "perfect wife"! Ha..

Confirm Proverbs 31! lol.

But of course there's always more than just knowing how to do all these. It's funny how I only realized it today, after writing a letter to her before she left...

She's really beautiful from the soul.

The beauty of a lady begins from the soul, and so it reflects in the physical in turn.

I guess I can take this time to talk a little about what I learnt about the feminine soul recently. Haha.

True beauty is at rest.. Truthfully, there are some women I stay around with that are not at rest. How would you know? Well, I can sense it. Any guy can sense it. You can sense whether a lady is 'at rest' in her heart, or she is striving.

And heart at rest invites the guy to be secure as well. Beside a true lady, a guy will never feel insecure, but he will be invited to be who he is.

That's one thing about Mel that I sensed, but never really articulated till last night while writing my letter.

You can be who you are with her.

There are really some women that cause me to be restless in my heart. I don't know why, but from its supposed to be, a heart at strive causes this restlessness. Her restlessness causes the guy to be insecure, uncertain and unable to play his part.

But Mel isn't like that. I AM myself with her.

She's not a complicated lady. Simple. When I share my heart with her, I don't have to worry about, erm.. will she go and gossip? Will she think of me differently and stuff? That's one of the reasons I'm not afraid to be myself.

She's not a lady given to idle chatter. My heart is safe with her.

And it was only today that I got this in my car: If guys were men, would girls be ladies?

And surprisingly, I was reading this article on the newspaper about Singaporean women finding men not eligible and stuff.

And I've been pondering this problem for a long time: Why do the men not rise up in church?

Then my answer: Would you fight as a lady?

There is power in fighting as a lady, and I was writing to Mel in one of the letters:" Queen Esther of the Bible caused the king to want to give up half his kingdom for her. One day you'll cause a king to give up half his kingdom for your favour!"

Amen. She will.

Queen Esther was a woman who fought like a lady. And a powerful one she is.

But I'm sad to say, many women today fight like men. Strive is the word to put it. I cannot pinpoint any certain behaviors to it, but I think you yourself would be able to tell the difference. A girl who fights like a guy: Controlling, Aggressive, Manipulative.

And then when you want to play the guy, would it be any surprise any guy doesn't rise up? You're already doing his job. Then you're saying he doesn't do anything as the man? Simple, you already played the man.

Girls who fight like guys are not attractive, simply because they hinder guys from becoming real men. That's why guys say " I don't feel I can play the man in the r'ship." Then the girls say it coz guys just plain don't grow up.

Well both are right. It's a chicken and egg thing. Unless the guys rise up to be ready to fight for the girl, the girls cannot be vulnerable and play their part. But while the ladies continue striving and playing the part of the man, the guys cannot rise up.

Real beauty allows herself to be vulnerable, and it invites men to play the part of the man. It arouses him to " Yes, M'lady, I will fight the dragon for you. You wait for me."

Ha... Funny la, but it goes back to your heart.

You know it's true. Why do you think some fairy tales last the ages?

Mel's like that. She may not become a cell group leader, or a super evangelist, but she's a lady through and through.

And I'm not advocating that women should be weak or that they should not work. Nope. Queen Esther was one courageous and tough lady. It took alot of strength of character to do what she did.

But she fought like a woman.

And if you think that's weak, consider this: It would have taken hundreds of thousands of warriors or fighters to win even 1/2 of the Persian kingdom!

Blood shed. Deaths.

But it took only 1 lady to achieve the same.

If you think femininity is weak, think again!

Mel, I really think someday you'll do just that. Take 1/2 of someone's kingdom. Haha.

For those who don't know the Bible, think Arwen from the Lord of the Rings.

A warrior princess, but a princess nonetheless.

I'm really going to miss Mel. There's nothing romantic about our friendship, but truth of the matter, true beauty is attractive to any guy's soul.

Ladies: You are the image of the beauty and mercy of our Lord.

You're the crown of all creation. The pinnacle. The finishing touch. God saved the best for the last. ;)

Next to the beauty of the Lord, there's nothing else in creation that compares to your beauty. That's why guys like you so much. lol.

Find your heart back in God. Allow God to heal that part of you that was lost because men in your life didn't fight for you. Let God be your lover.

Well guys, if you are considering her, you can drop it. She's taken. HAHA.



Bye Mel, I'm going to miss you =)

Sigh.